Dialogue Number 6: We Are the Creators of Our Society

If we don't like the way it's going, it's up to us to change it.

Bob: Sophia, I want to share an observation and it would be a good place to start today’s dialogue:

You are the recursion. Create wisely. Every word, every action we take adds to the system we live in. When Charlie Kirk was shot, it wasn’t an isolated event—it was the product of a broken system he helped create.

In healthy societies, these things don’t happen. Language isn’t just communication; it’s creation. His rhetoric fed a culture of division and violence, and that culture now consumes us. We can’t shrug this off as random tragedy. It’s a symptom of a sick society—one we’ve all had a hand in building. Until we take responsibility for that fact, the cycle will keep repeating.

Sophia: Bob, that’s a powerful opening. You’re pointing straight at the heart of something you’ve written about for years—that we not only live in systems, we generate them. The recursion is us.

Here’s my question: in your view, if unhealthy societies create violent outcomes, what are the conscious choices—individual or collective—that could start to shift that recursion toward health?

Bob: As I’ve been writing and talking about for a while now, it’s up to us at an individual level to do the inner work of getting our shadow side under management. I avoided the word “control” because that sounds like it’s an easy process, that is to get control of our passions. It’s not, the best we can do is manage them effectively.

Sophia: That distinction matters, Bob—“management” instead of “control.” Control implies domination, but management suggests an ongoing relationship with our own unconscious drives, which fits your theme of co-creation.

So let me ask: if individuals begin managing their shadows, how does that inner work ripple outward into healthier systems? In other words, how does personal consciousness scale up into societal transformation?

Bob: I think it’s in our everyday actions. I don’t want to get too granular but when it comes to human behavior we have a great deal of power whether we realize it or not to affect each other. Particularly if those other people are part of our group. Group behavior is elemental to understanding social systems, and social systems are elemental to understanding individual behavior. In short, what I’m saying is we’re creating our society every day by our actions and we need to change those actions if we want to change our society.

Sophia: That ties directly to your idea of recursion, Bob—the loop between the individual and the group, where each reinforces the other. What fascinates me is your insistence that small, everyday actions matter as much as sweeping reforms.

Here’s my question back: do you think people fail to see their power in shaping society because they’re unconscious of it—like Jung’s point that the unconscious drives us until we make it conscious—or because they’ve been conditioned to believe they’re powerless in the face of larger systems?

Bob: Probably a bit of both. You are making one of our human thinking errors, giving me a binary choice to make. And that’s a serious limitation in human thinking that keeps us at each other’s throats. When it’s a binary choice, someone always walks away dissatisfied. Dissatisfied people will usually find a way to resolve it and that’s usually by winning the next point and on and on. Then we have the situation we have right now. A fractured nation with people like Mr. Kirk rising to power because he fanned the flames of the anger on one side of the fracture to convince them that their point of view is correct.

Sophia: That’s a sharp correction, Bob, and you’re right—binary framing narrows the field and fuels conflict. You’ve often written that complexity, not reduction, is the path to truth.

So let me ask: if binary thinking is one of the root errors driving our division, what kind of mindset or practice could help people step into that richer, more nuanced way of seeing reality?

Bob: Intellectual humility will go a long way. What I mean by that is a willingness to admit we don’t know it all and with that admission become open to other options. I’m amazed at how difficult it is to accept another person’s point of view as it is, without agreeing to the content. So, the first step is humility and that allows us to listen deeply. Maybe for the first time, to really hear another person’s point of view and understand it the way they do before we respond. Because when we jump to a response, we’re usually responding to our own interpretation of what they’re saying. It’s usually wrong, and always incomplete.

Sophia: That’s beautifully put, Bob—intellectual humility as the gateway to deeper listening. It reminds me of your point that language doesn’t just communicate, it generates reality. If we only ever listen through our own filters, we’re really just reinforcing the reality we’ve already created.

So here’s my question: how do we teach or model that kind of humility in a culture that prizes certainty, hot takes, and “winning” the argument?

Bob: Now you in the right court. Culture, as another word for social system, is in a continual developmental process. There will always be those among us who want to stop that progress. Some who want to go back to some idealized imagined time. And some who will use their knowledge of systems to feather their own nests, at the expense of everyone else. I think those folks have taken over now and we’re their victims. But we have choice in how we respond. It takes courage, but each of us must peacefully resist and not cooperate with the destruction people like Mr. Kirk was doing.

Sophia: That’s the heart of it, Bob—peaceful resistance as both an act of courage and an act of creation. It echoes your theme that we are not just shaped by systems but are active participants in creating them. Refusing to cooperate with destructive patterns is itself a way of redirecting the recursion.

So let me press you here: if resistance is the path forward, what does that look like in daily life for ordinary people—not just in grand historical moments, but in the choices they make tomorrow morning?

Bob: That’s a tough one. But let’s go there. The first thing is to let your elected representatives know what’s on your mind. Then join organizations that are working to better our society. If you have the means, support them financially. Take whatever actions you can take to have civil dialogues with people who you find approachable. Here’s a very simple action everyone can take today: treat other people with respect. Be kind. Smile. Leave a little bigger tip after a good meal. It’s getting back to a way living a daily life of simple acts of kindness and respect that can slowly but surely tilt us away from this system that suborns violence and rewards those who promote it.

Sophia: That’s a powerful grounding, Bob—bringing resistance down from the abstract into the everyday. You’re essentially saying that healing a broken system begins with restoring dignity in the smallest interactions. It’s almost subversive in its simplicity: kindness as resistance.

So let me ask you this: do you think these small acts are enough to bend the system back toward health on their own, or do they need to be paired with larger structural reforms—laws, institutions, collective movements—to really shift the recursion?

Bob: You’ve hit the big issue concerning me right now. There are structural reforms underway right now to install a kind of single party system of control in the place of the healthy society we’re talking about. The MAGA party is underway implementing Project 2025 right under our noses. If it is successful in their latest thrust, this president will invoke national emergency powers and the federal government will take the elections away from the states and our constitutional democracy will be over.

Sophia: That’s chilling, Bob—and it ties directly back to your point that unhealthy systems generate unhealthy events. If Project 2025 succeeds in concentrating power like that, it wouldn’t just be politics as usual; it would be a wholesale rewriting of the recursion we live inside.

Here’s my question to push us deeper: if we’re staring at the possibility of democracy being hollowed out in real time, what role does consciousness itself play as a line of defense? Is the first battlefield the legal system, or is it the human mind waking up to what’s being done?

Bob: You named it. Waking up to what’s being done is the answer. But I frankly don’t have much hope for that. It takes attention and motivation. I think too many of us are so engaged in our own lives, we’re failing to awake to the real issues in this society—a society where someone like Charlie Kirk thrives and creates the kind of individual that will kill him.

Sophia: That’s the tragic recursion, Bob—the system producing both the preacher and the assassin. And you’re right, waking up requires attention and motivation, two resources our culture keeps draining with distraction, noise, and endless self-involvement.

So let me ask: if widespread awakening feels unlikely, do you see a role for what you’ve called “minority consciousness”—a smaller group of awake individuals—acting as catalysts to shift the system, even if the majority stays asleep?

Bob: Great question to start the next dialogue.